Who am I? I am a mother, a daughter, a grandma and a supervisor. I’m a friend, a wife and a sister, but who am I? As I struggle to answer this question it is the fact of being who or what a person or thing is….
I was asked recently if it was my birthday this last weekend which indeed it was and I had decided sometime earlier this year to remove completely my birthday information on social media. I don’t know if it was because the social media can sometimes take over my life or if less is more? Or maybe because I wanted to just be around without having people fuss over things. I’m not sure my motivation, but I didn’t do it to hurt anyones feelings as clearly this is part of my identity. I guess it just doesn’t seem important to have to say happy birthday each year, as that was what I was thinking when I removed that information.
What is identity? what defines us? I know for everyone it is very different. My love for my horses defines me as I’ve loved horses all my life. My family defines me, with three children and a wonderful husband and extended family. Now I have a wonderful daughter-in-law and son-in-law and of course a darling granddaughter. They all fill my life with such joy and happiness, they define my identity.
My identity definitely includes my work. I’ve been in the medical field for 35 years working in a laboratory. I’ve been doing this job for so many years I can do it in my sleep. My identity is a laboratory worker, and I’ve been doing this in a Veterinary reference laboratory helping Veterinarians across the country running blood work so they can make diagnosis for sick animals. This is my identity, what makes me tick and what makes me whole. Crazy I’ve been in this field doing what I do, day in and day out for 35 years.
I’ve pondered this question many times in this life. I’ve come across forks in the road of my life that would have affected my identity if I had chosen that path instead of the one I took. One of these forks was I could have moved to Idaho with my horse trainer back in the 80’s. How my identity would have been so different from my identity of today. I would have been an avid dressage rider, maybe even a trainer as my whole world would have been 100% horses and horse training. But I chose to stay at home and go to college and work in a laboratory. So strange how life turns out, to look back and ponder….
I will conclude that I truly LOVE my identity. Even though I believe your identity includes things you love and do, and everything I do in my life is what I want it to be even though my life didn’t include say being a horse trainer. I am fortunate to have horses in my life, that my family especially my husband understands my horses define me and my identity and is so important to me and this is the most amazing thing and I’m thankful and humbled by his love and understanding. ❤